By David Vandygriff
Why I’m 48 years and have owned gay nightclubs and co-founder of others, it is no secret I often spend time at home and going out every now and then with friends young and old.
When reading online today I came across Instinct Magazine’s article “New Survey Reveals What Age It Becomes Tragic To Party!” by Bryan Keating.
I must admit the article title caught my attention as one of the older gay generation. Laughing!
After living in a handful of different LGBTQ neighborhoods in large cities, I’ve witnessed, you know, that guy. He’s of a particular age and is going out to the clubs on a daily basis. We've all seen him, said hello to him during our first visit on the scene, and continue to see him time and time again. I will commend him for his… energy.
According to Curry’s PC World, they have discovered the age when it’s time so stop clubbing. Get ready for this…37 years old.
“37 years old is the magic number. Currys carried out a survey of 5,000 adults and found that 37 percent of participants went as far as saying that it’s “tragic” seeing those out at clubs who are 40 or older. The study also found that 31 years old is the age that many begin to prefer staying in than going out.”
Personally “you know that guy” I find extremely offensive. The young evidently are unaware of what it takes to keep a gay bar financially sound, which is parts of the older generation that have the money to spend. Not the twinks that enter a gay bar with only $20 to spend for the evening. If gay bars operated ONLY on the under 37 crowd they would shutter their doors within a year. That is a FACT of business shared by nearly every bar owner I know. Most bar owners tell you the secret is a mixed age crowd.
Needless to say the online comments began to pour in for Bryan Keating:
Hey Bryan, why don't you write on something you know something about? There are thousands of "over 35" yo who go out on the weekends. Maybe if you'd stop hanging around persnickety 18-25 twinks and ask those in their 30's to 50's you'd get different results. But where ever I go, there's always an older crowd out with the "boys". And it's not your place to judge if somebody is "tragic" just for going to the clubs on the weekends if they happen to be older than you. Makes you look like judgmental little twink. And us older guys who've been there, done that in the gay world (how many of your friends did you loose to AIDS). Besides, they are the ones who have most if the money. If I were you, I'd edit for content and apologize.
What I find tragic are judgemental pricks who care more about a 40year old in a club than how much of an asshole they're being.
Who actually cares? If you're a decent person and are enjoying yourself, more power to you.
Ian C, London
Just wow. The only "tragic" thing is that we circulate articles like this in the LGBTQ community as "news". If you need to be drunk or drugged to go out clubbing in your 20's, I'd say that could likewise be judged a tragedy... but I won't be too cruel and judge it so, knowing what most gay people are going through.
If you're 45, like me, and finally saw beyond the drink & drugs and internalised shame enough so you can enjoy clubbing in your 40's (and hopefully beyond), having finally got your shit together and knowing your worth... I'd say that's fabulous. And plenty of 20-somethings I know who are more than puddle-deep think so too.
The additional tragedy is that Bryan Keating's articles are considered "journalism" when they come across more as his own internalised shame. Any real journos want to write actual articles for our community?!
It looks like the readers of Instinct Magazine are no fan of Bryan Keating…….. Byran was born on Chicago’s South Side. He now resides living a half-luxurious lifestyle in West Hollywood, California.